The Life & Times of Brown Sugar II

I know you have pretty much given up on Brown Sugar updates! Don’t write me off yet! While I have good intentions, I can’t seem to make time to sit mine arse down and blog the way I used to. *sigh* Lord knows I have a million and one things that I could be sharing with you all. Wow….*tapping chin* I first blogged in October 2004. I became addicted immediately. Here it is, January 2007 and my blogging record has pretty much become nonexistent. Grant it, I’ve blogged a time or two on my Myspace page. But no where near how I used to be. Maybe I’ll make that one of my resolutions for this new year. LOL Here it is January 7 and I’m still talking about making resolutions.

Is it just me, or has anybody else NOT really thought about making resolutions for the year? There are a lot of things that I definitely want to work on that I didn’t accomplish in previous years. But to sit down and make a list of resolutions….I just couldn’t do this year. Well, I wouldn’t say ‘couldn’t - more like, just haven’t done it. Maybe because I know deep down that after the first 30 days or so of the year, I will have resorted back to my old ways of doing things. We’ll see. Maybe things will be different this year. *rubbing chin* So when is it too late to make new year’s resolutions. *smile* I think I just need to work on making a few lifestyle changes.

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Ooowee! That girl Brown Sugar can take some serious breaks, huh? *smile* I know some of you have been wondering what in the world I’ve been up to. Then again, you probably haven’t. *shrugs* Anywho, as you know I have relocated to good ole DC. Thus far, I have no serious complaints.
I can tell you this though - I don’t regret leaving my previous place of employment. Everything happened so damn fast though. I haven’t had too much time to really sit and digest it all. I’m just now slowing down. *screeching brakes*

I moved into my own place last month. Prior to that, I was staying with one of my linesisters. When I was first offered the job I was all stressed out about finding a place to stay. Then another one of my linesisters suggested I ask said linesister if I could crash at her spot until I found my own spot. To include my loving son AFTER he returned from a week turned four week vacation with my parents. I hadn’t even thought about asking her. I had a million and one things on my mind at the time anyway. To no surprise, my linesister had no problem with my son and I crashing at her spot. For one, she probably felt the need to return the favor because she stayed with me for one summer while she completed an internship in ATL. But I’m sure she would have let me stay either way. She’s cool like dat. *smile* And simply fabulous! Anyway, I always had somebody crashing at my spot. Be it a couple of days to months and months…..and even more months at a time. *sigh* My cousin used to always say I ran a shelter out of my apartment. And you know….for a minute it seemed like I really was. LOL At any rate, I figured it was time for me to start cashing in favors. Although, I don’t do things to get something in return. Know what I mean????

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Ok. Most of you know that I’ve been plotting my exit from the “A.” Well, it’s finally come into fruition. Finally! Although, my initial plan to move closer to my family didn’t work. But….with a little bit of redirection things have worked out for me. I’m moving on to the next chapter of my life. Damn. My book is thick - just like me. *smile*

By month’s end, I will be moving back the the DC area. Sometimes I can’t believe it. Why? I’ll tell you why. Because it happened so damn fast. Literally. I got hired one week ago exactly. I have to be in training next week. Talk about moving fast. Yeah…I had to make some quick decisions. So…like my big sister said, “Either get off the pot or continue to sit on it.” And well…..I got my ass up off that pot. *flushing toilet* LOL I gave my resignation letter this past Tuesday. You just don’t know how relieved I feel right now. Don’t get me wrong, I’m actually kind of nervous about this whole moving thing. But I don’t have time to even put any energy or thought into that. I have work to do!!
I’ll keep you posted!!! Wish me luck!

Question. Is there such a thing as being giving AND selfish at the same time? This is something I’ve been grappling with for a while. I consider myself to be a VERY giving person. However I can be selfish too.

I somehow ALWAYS find myself in situations such as the one I’m in now. I’m always opening my home up to a friend to stay until they get on their feet or whatever. Sometimes it’s for a few days. Other times, it’s for months. *sigh* I can’t tell you how many times I’ve done this. The minute I do it, I end up regretting it. Maybe not IMMEDIATELY. But it’s damn sure inevitable. My goodness. Now don’t get me wrong. I’m very sincere in my actions. For some reason, I feel almost obligated to help my friends out. But sometimes, it’s at my own expense. In the back of my mind, I might be screaming, “Nooooooo!” *kicking & screaming* But….out of my mouth comes, “Yeah…you can stay with me.” Have you ever done something like that? Agreed to doing something when CLEARLY you want to do the opposite.
Well….I have a friend that’s been staying with me for a little over two months now. Ok…bear in mind that I have a 3 year old child. She also has a 3 year old child AND two dogs. *deep sigh* So….imagine my discontent at this point in time. I thought it would be cool at first. But between my son and her daughter constantly bickering over who’s toy belongs to who and her dogs pissing and/or shitting on my carpet - I’m about to explode! That shyt drives me crazy. Seriously. This has turned into a bit much for your girl. *shaking my head* I’m always game to being a good friend. But dammit….I think I’ve surpassed my duty as a “good/great friend.” Seriously.
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Well, I started my new position on yesterday. Thus far, it’s cool. I’m just going in with an open mind. Starting anew…. For one, I’m not going to entertain any evildoers! I think I allowed myself to get caught up in all that darn drama. Never again. Phuck those haters! AS well as anymore coming my way. Little do they know, I will smack the shyt outta them. Foreal. Don’t mess with me no moe! LMAO

But on the serious tip, I believe this is definitely a good move for me. I’m really satisfied. And let me tell you why. If you ask any body that knows me well, they can tell you that it was my goal (one of them) to become the police spokesperson. While I am not the ONLY spokesperson, I’m there. *clapping wildly* I really feel as though I’ve accomplished something. However, I’m still not thoroughly satisfied with the department. I want to get as much as I can out of my current assignment. From there I plan on moving on to other things - which include relocating. It’s funny all of this happened when I was in the middle of planning to relocate. I guess some things are in order for me. At one time, I was planning on moving back home. For whatever reason, wasn’t shyt poppin’ off there. Not to mention that everybody I talked to kept telling me, “You don’t want to move back here.” *sigh* The only reason I wanted to move back home or closer to home was to be closer to my parents. Decisions….decisions…

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Well! Where does one begin???? A whole lot has been going on in Brown Sugar’s world.
Let me back up a bit so that I can bring you up to speed. *insert sound of rewinding tape*

Ok. As you all know I haven’t exactly been thrilled about my job. Rightfully so.
I’ve been wanting to make some changes in my life for the longest. Career and geographically speaking. I think the last time I was here….well even before that, I spoke of how I wanted to relocate AND find a new job. Well, the search is still on.
Back in April an opening in our Public Affairs unit was posted. Naturally, me being the communications-driven person that I am, applied for the position. To make a long story short, I interviewed for the position. In addition, I provided references, video clipping with me on it (of course) and writing samples. Needless to say, the interviewer was impressed with what I had to offer and went as far to tell me that out of everybody that she had interviewed, she was most impressed with me. She told me right then and there that she knew I’d be a good addition to the unit. With that being said, I walked away from the interview feeling good.
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What up? What up? Just wanted to let ya’ll know that I am still around. Although I haven’t posted SHAT in months! I’ve been getting my lurk on though! I hate to disappoint you but I’m not about to post anything right now either. LOL I’m just peeping in…as usual. Actually, I don’t have much time to post. I would if I could. I’m in training for the next couple of weeks. I have a lot of darn homework to complete! I’m trying to stay focused! Gotta stay focused! Peace out!

Hello blogworld. All is well with me. For the most part. I can’t complain…at least it wouldn’t help if I did anyway, huh? *smile*
I took the day off work. I needed it. I had such a frustrating day at work yesterday. It started early too. From there it was like a downward spiral. By the time lunch time arrived, I had already made up my mind that I was not coming in to work the following day. Have you ever had days like that? I mean seriously. It was so bad. I was irritated even when I got home. Last night my son was off the chain too. LOL It’s funny looking back at it. But damn….anything that can go wrong, will go wrong. At least that’s what they say. I mean, from spilled milk, temper tantrums, not wanting to watch The Wiz. I mean, who doesn’t want to watch The Wiz?!? LOL He eventually sat his butt down and watched it though. Anyway, those were just a few things that occurred last night. Nothing big. Just nerve wrecking…and really the usual turn of events after a hard days work. Why am I trippin? *smh*
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From time to time, I find myself wondering to myself, “What is truly the best religion to follow?” I mean, there are so many different variations of religion in this world that people follow on a daily basis. Then, there are those like me who haven’t a clue which way to go. I mean, I definitely believe in God. God knows my heart! No doubt about that. However, who’s to say which religion is true religion? Nobody really knows.

I grew up Catholic. I went to church almost every Sunday with my parents. I wasn’t a die hard religious fanatic or anything like that. Most of the time, I’d just sit up in Mass, stand up and then sit back down. *smile* You know how Catholics do it. LOL All while drifting off, thinking about who knows what. Every once in a while, I’d get something out of the homily prepared by the priest. But…most times, I really didn’t. Was it just me or the person delivering the message? *shrugs*

I have to be honest though. I’ve attended many of Baptist churches. Most, if not all of the time, I get something out of the message. It might be because the preacher is a little more animated and active than the priest at the church where I grew up. I don’t know. You know how you go to church service and you feel like the preacher is surely talking about or to you or a situation that you’re involved in or dealing with?
Well, I most often experience that when I attend Baptist churches. Not to mention that the songs they sing tend to move me a bit more. But…don’t get it twisted. The Catholic church I grew up in wasn’t your average Catholic church. Well….the choir wasn’t. Our choir used to get down and jam. They had (still do) a choir director/pianist who also played at a Baptist church. So the music selections usually had folks tapping their feet and clapping their hands.

Anyway, I put my son in new school this week. The school is actually a Seventh Day Adventist school. Now, you don’t have to be a Seventh Day Adventist to attend this school. (Obviously) I wasn’t and still am not really familiar with what Seventh Day Adventist believe in. I only enrolled my son in the school because one of my girlfriend’s son goes there as well and she loves it. Plus, the price is right. Which is always a plus. Wouldn’t you say? At any rate, prior to enrolling him, I sat and spoke with the school director. She asked me if I’d have a problem with my son not eatting meat because they don’t believe in eatting ANY meat whatsoever. Instead of HAM, they eat MAM. LOL Or something like that. I really can’t remember exactly what it’s called but dammit it rhymed with ham. LOL No meat. No dairy. All soy. Which is fine with me because I give him soy milk from time to time anyway. We’ll see how it works out….

I got off subject a tad bit. I guess I said all of the above to say that I don’t know much about Seventh Day Adventist. I plan on doing some more research on the religion this week.

Well, I think I’ve rambled enough. I’m about to put my son to bed.
Am I the only one that thinks about this? Just wondering.
Nite!

While I was home visiting my family during the holidays, I took some time to clean up my bedroom. Rather…the remains of it. *smile* At any rate, I took out my little “box” that contained a bunch of letters from my girlfriends and old boyfriends.

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