Grappling…
Question. Is there such a thing as being giving AND selfish at the same time? This is something I’ve been grappling with for a while. I consider myself to be a VERY giving person. However I can be selfish too.
I somehow ALWAYS find myself in situations such as the one I’m in now. I’m always opening my home up to a friend to stay until they get on their feet or whatever. Sometimes it’s for a few days. Other times, it’s for months. *sigh* I can’t tell you how many times I’ve done this. The minute I do it, I end up regretting it. Maybe not IMMEDIATELY. But it’s damn sure inevitable. My goodness. Now don’t get me wrong. I’m very sincere in my actions. For some reason, I feel almost obligated to help my friends out. But sometimes, it’s at my own expense. In the back of my mind, I might be screaming, “Nooooooo!” *kicking & screaming* But….out of my mouth comes, “Yeah…you can stay with me.” Have you ever done something like that? Agreed to doing something when CLEARLY you want to do the opposite.
Well….I have a friend that’s been staying with me for a little over two months now. Ok…bear in mind that I have a 3 year old child. She also has a 3 year old child AND two dogs. *deep sigh* So….imagine my discontent at this point in time. I thought it would be cool at first. But between my son and her daughter constantly bickering over who’s toy belongs to who and her dogs pissing and/or shitting on my carpet - I’m about to explode! That shyt drives me crazy. Seriously. This has turned into a bit much for your girl. *shaking my head* I’m always game to being a good friend. But dammit….I think I’ve surpassed my duty as a “good/great friend.” Seriously.
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